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My mother-in-law has always said that my daughter is the “spitting image” of my husband. I used to think she said that because she loves her son, and naturally sees him in Lilah. But after seeing “Mini-Me Fathers Day Contest” winners – Jaiden and her Dad’s picture – I started thinking that my husband and our daughter really do look alike.

Evolutionarily speaking, I’ve heard that most kids are “made” to look like the fathers in their first year of life. Fathers need that instantly recognizable connection so, in turn, they will protect their offspring. (Generally the maternal connection is made early on since mom has already had 10 months to bond with baby.) This may all be an old wives tale but then again, maybe not, because Lilah and her daddy are quite the dynamic duo… Wonder Twin powers – ACTIVATE!

Recently my mother-in-law sent me some photos of my husband at Lilah’s exact age (2 ½.) I realize now that she wasn’t exaggerating about how alike they look!

What do you think?

Father

Father

Daughter

Daughter

On the flip side, the older our daughters become the more they look (and act) like their moms … even if they didn’t when they were younger. Yes, for better or worse, we’re all turning into our mothers!  I attribute this to mom’s role as a model for their daughters’ gestures and characteristics.  Even if my little one doesn’t look like me (…yet) she definitely acts like me when she stands with her hands on her hips, or pretend-talks on the phone. I am happy to be an example for her, and I’ll do everything in my power to make sure I am a positive one. Trust me, I’ll know right away if I’m not, because… well, she’s my little mirror!

Do you find this to be true in your family?

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