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“I only want mommy to dress me” is a common request from many a toddler.  Whether it’s a daily routine like getting dressed, taking a bath or being put to bed, a child’s determination that “only mommy can do it!” can leave dad feeling rejected and mom feeling SO TIRED.

Children might become more interested in one particular parent for a variety of reasons. It may be that, in terms of personality, a child might wind up preferring one parent to the other. If one parent is full of energy all the time, an energetic toddler might be more drawn to them. Another cause of a toddler preferring one parent to the other can be the old saying that familiarity fosters contempt. If one parent stays home with the child all day long, the toddler might get much more excited when the other parent is around, just because he or she doesn’t get to see that parent as much as he does the other.

When you notice your toddler preferring one parent to the other, you should take some time to try to figure out why this is the case. If you are the parent that is not preferred, watch her activities and interests. Also watch how you tend to react to these. Also, this is a good time to teach your child what unconditional parental love means.

If this sounds familiar, read on for tips on how to cope if you’re not winning the popularity contest for your baby’s affection.

  1. Accept It.
    Like anything else in life, acceptance is KEY! It is most likely a phase, and not an uncommon one at that. Soon Daddy or Mommy will be jealous of the other. J
  2. Talk about It.
    If you genuinely have hurt feelings over the issue, talk to your spouse about it. Avoid blaming your hubby because he didn’t cause the situation, and in all truth, he probably feels overwhelmed and super tired.
  3. Know that you’re not alone.
    No matter how you may feel, rest assured that you are not the first parent to feel rejected by your little one.

However you decide to deal with your feelings about the current situation, know that it is not your fault. It’s a quite natural phase that your baby or toddler will eventually outgrow. And hey, don’t we all want a little down time anyways as parents?

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